If Your Partner Won’t Talk Money… RUN

It’s a big statement… but in our latest episode of The Vault, we leaned into it.

“If your partner won’t talk about money, run.”

Okay, maybe don’t literally run. But if the very idea of having a money conversation causes your partner to shut down completely? That’s not a great sign.

Money isn’t just numbers on a spreadsheet. It’s rent. Holidays. The electricity bill. Your kid’s new shoes. It touches every part of your shared life, so if someone refuses to even engage in the conversation, that’s worth paying attention to.

Now, we’re not saying you should be talking about the budget every single day (although some of us love that!). In fact, one of the great things about the Financielle method is that you do the thinking at the start of the month, and then you get on with your life. No endless “can we afford this?” convos over dinner. 

But never talking about money? That’s not a vibe. That’s a red flag 🚩

A partner who avoids the subject might be ashamed, hiding something, or simply uninterested in sharing money goals. And unfortunately, we’ve seen this play out… from secret debts to mystery side hobbies 👀

We’ve heard stories about golf clubs being bought on finance, bikes being snuck into garages, and partners who “don’t know” what half the household costs. All while the other partner is quietly trying to stretch the food shop budget.

It’s not about control, it’s about transparency. When one person holds all the knowledge (or all the spending power), the imbalance doesn’t just harm your finances, it harms your relationship.

Here’s the truth:

• Money talks build trust 🤝
• Shared budgets build connection 💞
• And honesty about money builds a future you both want to be part of 🫶

Want to go deeper?

If this episode got you thinking, explore these next:

• 5 Compelling Reasons to Combine Finances as a Couple (And How It Can Strengthen Your Relationship) 
• Why 50:50 Bill Splitting Doesn’t Work in Relationships—and What to Do Instead
• How to Recognise Financial Abuse: 7 Red Flags You Shouldn’t Ignore
• Have a Money Date Night 

No matter your relationship structure, you deserve a partner who’s willing to show up 🙌

Listen to the full podcast episode on:

• YouTube
• Spotify 
• Apple Podcasts